Inevitably, after a few dates, there was then the awkwardness of defining the relationship – Are we a couple? Or just friends? Are we just talking? (whatever that means – I think we all talk to dozens of people every day!) In short, the dating scene as I knew it was one of the most confusing places to be – and for a Catholic man who was desiring to live a life of virtue and sanctity – it made the discernment of my vocation nearly impossible. Then would follow the entire digital dismay of timely text messages and Facebook likes, followed by an impossible discernment of whether this person liked me or not. I would take them out for ice cream, or go to a movie, or whatever else seemed like a decent date. As it goes, I found some young women who were attractive, and I sought to gain their attention. When I was a young man in college, I went through what most young men go through – the dating scene.